It’s undying fact that marriage helps to safeguard one’s emaan. Islam declares it one half of one’s deen but unfortunately pre-marital relationships have become so common across whole the globe.
Gigantic advancements in technology and revolutionized social media are directly promoting such haram ties.
Porn movies, obscene literature and overwhelming outburst of western culture have painted impudence on the minds of Muslim youth. Islam strictly forbids keeping pre-marital relations as they drag one to blind alley of sins. Islam promotes sacredness of relations and prohibits all illegal ways regarding them. Demoralized and distracted young generation have become so much interested in pre-marital relations to seek timely pleasures as their lives are permeated by such things that strengthen their sexual desires. There are certain reasons which provoke such feelings in teenagers whose consequences are not less than horrible nightmares. These relations starts with many things and end with indignation and humility in society.
As the wheel of time is moving forward mental stature of people is changing as well. Those were the days when chastity and modesty were thought to be the jewel of girls and honor and dignity were prestige for boys. But time has taken an unfortunate turn. All ethics are diminishing as the time is passing by. At the same time when parents are dreaming high for their children’s future, they get involved in complicated ties which are repentance for their nobility. In such situation they enter into a fantasy land and turn blind eye towards all codes of conduct.
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There is no sound basis of such ties and are subtle as the fragile threads. They start with pleasant ebullition stirred up by ardour of youth. With passing moments they become tiered of it fed up and at last snap the ties. Aftermath of this horrible ending of fake love story is not less awkward. Person involved become victim of depression, anxiety and fretfulness irritability. Dread of being blackmailed is another major affliction one has to encounter. Humility in eyes of parents, friends and relatives drag one to a state of solitude. Sense of being mistrusted and disrespect make it hard to move across the road of life.
Electronic media is openly displaying amity between opposite genders. This is very influential on their mentality and may put them at stake. Bad company also diverts one’s consideration from genuine rule of law and consequently he or she becomes misled and depraved. Those who do not get proper attention from family fall a prey to deprivation and seek comfort by keeping secret relations. Late marriages can also be responsible for such smutty ties.
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They become peevish and anxious and hence destined to perish in vain by involving in illegal affairs. In this way they soothe their natural desires. Obscene books and magazines also divert one’s mental state. These are innumerable reasons which provoke such things. Illegitimate comradeship is awful and vexatious life is ahead for the persons involved. They lose self-esteem and credence. Regrets and sense of being fondled make them sick of their existence. Suicide cases have become very common. Many people end up their lives after they suffer worst pangs of affliction. Their hearts grow weary from all the delights of life. And hence they are curled forever.
It’s not a sin in Islam, if someone feels a special affinity or inclination toward a certain individual, since as human beings have no control on such natural disposition. As far as interaction is concerned, Islam utters some rules that we should be aware of before getting into any relation. If however, he or she wants to marry someone; such thing is not considered haram. In fact, Islam encourages us to marry person for whom we have special feelings and affinity. As prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) says: We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)
We as a Muslims should keen to maintain chastity and purity and adhere to the scared limits of Allah. A road that may lead to evil cannot be taken as a straight path but in today’s world, an increasing number of young Muslims are having relationships with member of opposite sex that are clearly outside the limits set by Islam. There is no valid reason to engage in a relationship without oriented toward marriage. No matter what had happened so far, repent sincerely to Allah, and promise him and yourself with total sincerity that you will do according to the will of Allah. If we have a GODCONCIOUSNESS, then the intention of abstinence make us to realize that, a way of life made right for us by Allah and we should follow the commands given by ALLAH and differentiate that what is right for us or not. We as a new generation of Muslims, influences the beauty and rightness of Islam to others and make right, all the wrongs of the world.
Written by: Sabeen Sabir
Edited by: Warda Hadia